Showing posts with label rejection. Show all posts
Showing posts with label rejection. Show all posts

Sunday, November 3, 2019

REJECTION - JESUS SHOWS US WHAT TO DO


REJECTION - JESUS SHOWS US WHAT TO DO
For me, the saddest verse in the Bible is John 6:66: “From that time many of his disciples went back, and walked no more with him.” The second saddest is nine verses later: “Neither did his brethren believe in him” (John 7:5). Jesus came to save the world. He required commitment, but his disciples couldn’t handle it. They had their own ideas about how to live, and about how Jesus should act too. Jesus didn’t agree with either. Rejection: Jesus shows us what to do about it.

We all get rejected sometimes. We’ve asked for, at least hoped for some kind of commitment, and the person we asked was not willing to give it. We’ve also been in situations where we refused to fit into the type of person someone else thought we should be. It feels unfair, but it happens, and we have several choices of what to do about it. When I read the scriptures in John, I felt so bad for Jesus. I thought, “Don’t they get it? Jesus is the son of God. Why are they being so stupid and so mean?” These people had been following Jesus, but then when he actually required a commitment from them, they said no. It kind of broke my heart. But then I kept reading and saw exactly how Jesus handled the rejection. It’s how we need to handle it as well.

After the people left off listening to Jesus, he just moved on. He was in Jerusalem, but he moved away. It says in John 7:1: “After these things, Jesus walked in Galilee: for he would not walk in Jewry, because the Jews sought to kill him.” Then when it was feast time and his brethren thought he should go to the feast in Jerusalem with them, he told them to go on ahead. He wasn’t going to do what they wanted him to do, just because they thought he should. He did what God wanted him to do, and we need to be doing the same.

As it turns out, Jesus did go to the feast in Jerusalem, but he went privately. God sent him to Jerusalem, directly to the temple, where he preached the gospel of God, like he always did, with boldness.

Jesus didn’t stop preaching. He didn’t stop speaking the truth in love. He didn’t stop calling a spade a spade. When he saw corruption, greed, and unrighteousness, he plainly exposed it. Jesus wasn’t afraid.

Even when those closest to him rejected and criticized him, he didn’t stop doing what God’s Word said to do. He didn’t let rejection change him. As far as this section of John tells us, it doesn’t even look like he allowed himself to be sad about the situation. What a great attitude!

Jesus could instantly turn his eyes on God and do the next thing with joy. That’s amazing to me, and I want to have that kind of mindset as well. Jesus didn’t quit or let himself be weakened by rejection. He stayed strong.

When we get rejected by people who don’t want to be around us, or by those who don’t think we’re acting like they want us to act, we can do what Jesus did, and just let them go.

We replace the rejector with the lover, Jesus. The words to an old Christian hymn ring true here: This hymn was written in 1922 by Helen Lemmel and was inspired by a tract written by the missionary Isabella Trotter:  

Turn your eyes upon Jesus
Look full, in his wonderful face
And the things of earth will grow strangely dim
In the light of his glory and grace


Love, Carolyn

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Sunday, February 1, 2015

WHEN GOD SAYS "GO BACK"

The mother bird was catching grasshoppers and risking the flight down to the ground to feed her baby, who was too young to fly. She was doing what her instincts told her was necessary. But it takes a lot more than instincts to be a great human mother.

It takes a relationship with God. Let’s look at some of the dilemmas of a mother, Hagar, in the Old Testament. She was the handmaid to Sarai, Abram’s wife. When Sarai couldn’t get pregnant, she gave Hagar to Abram. After Hagar got pregnant, Sarai was angry and jealous and treated Hagar horribly. Hagar fled. But God had other plans.

He sent an angel to deliver a hard message to her. God wanted her to go back into the house of Abram and Sarai.  Can you even imagine how heart-wrenching that message must have been? And how difficult it was to go back into a situation where she was mistreated?

But she obeyed God. Here’s the story:

“And the angel of the Lord found her by a fountain of water in the wilderness. And he said, Hagar, Sarai's maid, whence camest thou? and whither wilt thou go? And she said, I flee from the face of my mistress Sarai.

And the angel of the Lord said unto her, Return to thy mistress, and submit thyself under her hands. And the angel of the Lord said unto her, I will multiply thy seed exceedingly, that it shall not be numbered for multitude.

And the angel of the Lord said unto her, Behold, thou art with child and shalt bear a son, and shalt call his name Ishmael; because the Lord hath heard thy affliction” (Gen 16:7-11).

The word “heard” in this last verse is shama, which means to listen attentively, carefully, with regard and understanding. The word “affliction” means misery and depression. The angel was telling her that God understood her misery and depression. He cared about her and was listening to her anguish and in spite of what it seemed, she could trust that He still had a good plan for them.

Mothers need to know that they can take their deepest concerns to God and that He will instruct them and they can trust Him. God knows what’s in the future, so obedience necessarily overrides instinct at times.

After this encounter with an angel of God, Hagar realized how much God cared about her and her child. She could go back into Sarai and Abram’s home with new courage and a new awareness of how important she was to God no matter how Sarai felt about her. There were important lessons to learn and it was in Abram’s home that she and her son would learn them.

In the wilderness Hagar had poured out her heart to God, but she didn’t stop there. She learned how to listen to Him. She risked her own feelings of human rejection and obeyed when it wasn’t easy. God blessed her because of it and made her son the father of an entire nation.

We all have times when we know the best thing for us is go back to a situation we don’t like. But if it’s really the Lord instructing us and not just our ego, it’ll work out.

God gave Hagar a promise to look forward to, which gave her the courage to go on. He doesn’t always do that, but it wouldn’t hurt to ask. Why do we go back to something dragging our feet in drudgery as if it’s God’s punishment. We don’t even let Him give us a promise or some word of encouragement. We’re way too accustomed to thinking everyone’s always against us.

But Romans 8:28 tells us “that all things [of God] work together for good to them that love God.” With the right attitude and a little trust (or a lot!) we can still get through it. We’re never alone; the Lord is always with us every step of the way.

Hagar didn’t want to go back into Sarai and Abram’s home. And we don’t like going back to difficult situations either. But with God’s help we can do it and He will give us things to enjoy along the way and great rewards in the end. Take heart and trust Him; He will absolutely work things out for our good.

Love, Carolyn